A Letter of Hope

I am going to kick off November – Diabetes Awareness Month – with a letter of hope. It’s a brilliant idea of Maureen at Mumoftype1 to include these letters in hospital care packages for families of newly diagnosed T1 kids.

Dear family of a newly diagnosed child:

It’s undoubtedly a really hard time for you now. Your world has been turned upside down. You may be feeling scared, overwhelmed, sad, frustrated. You are probably bombarded with so much information and wondering how on earth you’ll be able to remember half of it, let alone be able to do all the things you need to do to take care of your child.

I remember this time so well. Like many other families, diabetes was the last thing on our mind and, in fact, we had no idea what Type 1 Diabetes was. I remember how, in the first days after diagnosis, I was wishing that we could fast-forward a year, to a point where we would not feel so overwhelmed, where we knew what we were doing and at peace with our new normal.

Now that we are more that three years in, I am going to tell you this: it will get better. I promise. It is a steep learning curve but before you know it, you will learn and do so much. You will become the boss of diabetes!

As much as you  can, embrace the hand you’ve been dealt. Dive in and learn. Ask questions, do your research. Learn together with your child. The more you understand about diabetes and its management, the more empowered and confident you will feel, and it will trickle down to your T1 child and the rest of the family. By now I feel like I’ve earned my honorary endocrinology degree and our daughter earned a title of a true diabadass. We have both skills and confidence to handle any situation diabetes can throw at us and it gives us a peace of mind and a feeling of pride and accomplishment.

Diabetes does not stop our daughter from doing what she loves. Be it sports, or playdates, or camps, or sleepovers, or traveling – she continues to do it all. You will learn how to make necessary adjustments, get the right kind of support and ask for appropriate accommodations. The question is not whether your child can do something with diabetes, but how it can be done. If there is one thing that I want to convey in this letter, is that you will learn how to work diabetes management around your life, not the other way around. It’s not always simple and there will be many hurdles to overcome, but I encourage you to start thinking about this right away. We don’t have a choice about having diabetes in our children’s lives, but we have a choice of how to deal with it and how to make the best of it. 

So, welcome to this crappy elite club. Did I mention that this club is full of amazing people? Please reach out to other T1 families in your community and online. Your local JDRF chapter is a good place to start. Our fellow d-peeps are an incredible source of support, encouragement, and wisdom. Our daughter also benefits immensely from having other T1 friends in her life.

Hang in there. Trust yourself and trust your child. T1 kids and families are strong and resilient. You got this. And all of us here got your back. You may not know us but we are in your corner. You are not alone!

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5 responses to “A Letter of Hope

  1. Hey Polina, I just love your Letter of Hope. Imagine you had been handed this when your darling wee girl was diagnosed? Then multiply that by ten! Your letter is going to help lots of families and their children. Great idea to put it on your blog! Maureen x

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    • Thank you Maureen! I hope it lifts someone’s spirits. We were lucky in that our local JDRF mentor contacted us shortly after Dx and connected us to a wonderful FB group of local T1 families. Never felt alone.

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  2. I adore the letter. That gives me a crazy idea to do it with all sorts of hospital patients. I may have to check out what my local hospital will allow.

    This item has been referred to the TUDiabetes Blog page for the week of October 31, 2016

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